How to Break Things Off With Your Clingy Sex Buddy. Youve got problems, Ive got advice. This advice isnt sugar coatedin fact, its sugar free, and may even be a little bitter. Welcome to Tough Love. Youve got problems, Ive got advice. This advice isnt sugar coatedin fact, its sugar free, andRead more Read. This week we have a guy who wants to end things with his sex buddy who seems to think theyre something more. Heres the thing Good people do bad things sometimes. Its possible that good hackers, the ones we celebrate for stopping malware, also create malware, perhaps. You have to decide for yourself what that means. Do you need a percentage of your responsibilities and projects to become more challenging Do you want to focus on. This week we have a guy who wants to end things with his sex buddy who seems to think theyre something more. Keep in mind, Im not a therapist or any other kind of health professionaljust a guy whos willing to tell it like it is. I simply want to give you the tools you need to enrich your damn lives. If for whatever reason you dont like my advice, feel free to file a formal complaint here. Now then, lets get on with it. I work for a large company and ended up hanging out with a coworker in a different department who I eventually had sex with. The kicker, though, is that Ive never been incredibly into dating her. We talked about sex from the beginning and we finally crossed that line. Since then weve had sex maybe 1. I can tell that she is leaning toward wanting more. She uses pet names and I dont. We have only hung out at our apartmentswe dont hang out at work at alland weve never gone on a date. Ive brought her Starbucks twice and thats the extent of it. I usually skirt the issue and let her know that Im busy. I text her back but I dont really initiate the texting, and Ive slowed down my need for sex with her significantly. Instagram, Facebooks hotter, snootier subsidiary, may have a massive data breach on its hands. But we always end up hanging out when Im bored on Saturday and having sex anyway. I dont dislike her company, but when we are done I can tell with her that it is much more than sex. Even though she has said shes fine with just sex, I feel like she wants more. Its been over a year since we first started talking and Im starting to believe she thinks we are more serious than we are. Ive never been great about breaking up and so Im curious what this type of situation requires. Can I text her A phone call An in person awkward conversation I want to be respectful but I also dont want it to seem more serious than it is. I feel like if I talk to her in person Im somewhat acknowledging the commitment that Ive never truly felt. Sincerely,Not Feeling It. Hey Not Feeling It I gotta say, a little communication would have gone a long way in this situation. First off, you should absolutely talk to her in person about ending things. How old are you, dude Youve been intimate with this woman at least 1. Petes sake And youve been friendsFRIENDSfor over a year I dont understand why you dont think that warrants a face to face. What, you can only see her in person if it means you get to bang her Damn, man, have some empathy. It seems the summer fling is a real thing. According to data from the online dating serviceRead more Read. Talking to her like shes a person you even remotely care about does not automatically mean you were once committed in a super serious relationship. Even if it did, youre looking to end things, so it doesnt matter. Theres no Serious Relationships Bureau that will note it down on your permanent record. Call her, ask her to meet you somewhere public not your apartments or where you work, and tell her whats going on. She might be fine with it ending because she wants something real. She might be a little confused and youll have to explain whats bothering you. Or, OR You might just find out that youre not the mega stud you thought you were, and that shes not interested in anything more either. Maybe she means it when she says shes fine with just sex, maybe the pet names are because she doesnt want to say your name or doesnt want to mix it up with someone elses maybe the fact youve never gone on a date or been anywhere but your apartments is exactly what she wanted too maybe the fact that she initiates the texting makes you HER booty call. Im not saying this is the case, but youll never really know until you talk to her about this stuff. Have you thought about this situation from her perspective at all Perhaps shes not this damaged, precious thing that needs anything beyond your pretty fantastic lovin. Either way, man up and talk to her, in person, with your mouth. Youll be fine, and youll have an opportunity to clear the air if theres any confusion. This what mature, respectful adults do. The phrase scheduled sex evokes dread for most couples. We have the idea that sex is alwaysRead more Read. Now, before you go, Not Feeling It, I have one more piece of advice. I dont know what kind of conversations youve had, you didnt say, but if things are actually the way you say they are, you should have been more upfront about the situation right from the get go. You should have said youre not interested in dating or getting serious because your current timeline of hanging out becoming friends having sex continuing to do so sure looks an awful lot like typical dating trajectory. I could see where one might get confused if you werent explicitly clear about just being sex buddies. Thats it for this week, but I still have plenty of blunt, honest advice bottled up inside. Tell me, whats troubling you Is work getting you down Are you having problems with a friend or a coworkerIs your love life going through a rough patch Do you just feel lost in life, like you have no direction Tell me, and maybe I can help. I probably wont make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, but sometimes what you need is some tough love. Ask away in the comments below, or email me at the address you see at the bottom of the page please include ADVICE in the subject line. Or tweet at me with Tough. Love Also, DO NOT EMAIL ME IF YOU DONT WANT YOUR REQUEST FEATURED. I do not have time to respond to everyone just for funsies. Til next time, figure things out for yourself. What To Do if my Playstation Account is Hacked. The Play. Station console as we all know is quite possibly the greatest creation humanity has achieved in our brief time on this Earth. The jury is still out on whether or not any vaccines, medical breakthroughs, or space worthy craft get the spot, but Im confident that Play. Station will get the top honors. The system may be just about perfect, but our species is about as far from perfect as you can get. Case and point the Play. Station Network and its individual users have been attacked by hackers out there trying to steal information. Once they have this info, they can clean out your bank accounts, compromise your account, and potentially run off with all of your purchased game downloads and DLC. Image via Play. Station. Info. Its not fun, and thats just the tip of the iceberg. Hackers wont stop at simply ripping your PSN account from you, theyll go after everything you know and love. Theyre like the mafiosos of the 2. Today Im going to give you some tips and best practices to use if this happens to you. Then, Im going to walk you through one of the largest breaches of security in history. After that Ill give you a real world story from a more recent time, and finally, Ill help you guard yourself against this starting today. Lets begin. Youve Just Been Hacked. What Do You Do Assuming your PSN is tied to your main email it should be, but well cover that later then youll receive a notification that money has been spent spent on your account, or that something has been modified. The second you see this, time becomes your greatest asset. Here are some crucial steps to take immediately 1. Change your password for PSN to something entirely different. You can do so by clicking this link and logging into your account. From there you can change the password online. Enable 2 Step Verification for much added security. Once this is enabled, you will be given a randomly generated code on your phone whenever you login. This includes checking your account on PS4, PC, or on your phone. Even if someone gets your password, this code will be required to finish the login, thus stopping hackers from getting through. If you get a code without logging in first, then you know someone has tried to get into your account and its time to change passwords. Remove any and all credit cards tied to your account. This can also be done by logging in at the link above and going to your account settings. If you are locked out of your PSN for any reason, contact Sony customer support IMMEDIATELY. This link will show you all of the options for contacting them. You can do so via the phone number, online chat, Twitter account, or the forums which are all available at varying times of day. As an additional precaution, you should also change the passwords of any other websites where you use that same password or something similar. This will help decrease the chances that your information is used elsewhere. Thats the quick rundown of what you should do when it does happen. You may be wondering if situations like this have been an issue in the past. The sad truth is yes, these things do happen. Lets explore similar situations and how they were resolved before finally giving you the tools and tips you need to protect yourself. The PSN Security Breach of 2. This event is widely regarded as one of the worst data security breaches in history. Over 7. 7 million Play. Station Network accounts were compromised when hackers breached Sonys servers via their Qriocity services. During this time, the PSP and the PS3 were the top dogs, and it was those users who were breached during this attack. The attack happened between April 1. April 1. 9th of 2. On the 2. 0th, Sony was forced to shut down the PSN. Shortly thereafter, they confirmed that 7. Were talking names, addresses, birth dates, credit cards, passwords, everything. Sony spent plenty of money getting things back up and running, and when people came back, they were required to download new firmware in addition to changing their password. Compensation was offered and since this major attack, there havent been any serious breaches in the security. That doesnt mean everyone is safe though. Sony learned from their mistakes, but hackers are always learning to circumvent even the highest levels of security. Lets fast forward to 2. The Story of Kadjar and His PSN Account Kadjar is a PSN user who suffered from a horrific PSN account hack in the beginning of 2. The story was told in great detail via post on Reddit that explains the journey from the moment of the hack until now. The story began when Kadjar discovered that over 6. PSN account. When Kadjar contacted Sony, heshe was told that they could only refund up to 1. If Kadjar were to contact the bank, any backcharges to Sony would result in the account being banned for fraud. This particular hacker was able to deactivate Kadjars account and activate it on their system. Customer support only allows for an account to be activated once every six months. At this point, Kadjar was essentially left without any options. Upon going to the Twitter account, Kadjar was advised to try the chat, but the answers were still the same. Meanwhile, Reddit users were offering to gift Kadjar creditgames but Kadjar politely declined saying Its nice to remember how many good people there are out there. I make a decent living, though, and Ill be able to take care of this either way. My goal here is to bring attention to a few of Sonys bad customer service policies in the hopes that theyll change them, and to encourage them to add more security measures to PSN. Kadjar received messages advising himher to post on the support forums for additional help. The situation exploded in popularity as people rallied to see Kadjars situation resolved. Eventually, Kadjar received a call from an Escalation Analyst at Sony who informed himher that they were performing an investigation into the situation. They were able to trace the hackers IP address to somewhere in Europe and confirmed the hack. The situation was resolved, and Kadjar was overjoyed to see people taking a stand and performing measures to protect their individual accounts. Kadjar was also informed that Sony HQ was made aware of the situation, which will hopefully result in a change to their policies. Kadjar was in good spirits at the end of it all, saying I dont think Sony is malicious or evil. Theyre a big company with millions of customers and employees, and sometimes things fall through the cracks. A fair point, but this story is a reminder that people have power over situations like this when they work together. It is also a great excuse to beef up your online security so something like this doesnt happen to you. Lets find out how to make that happen, shall we Tips and Best Practices For Online Security As you can see, anyone can be hacked, which means steps should be taken to ensure it doesnt happen to you. Here are some tips and best practices you can implement TODAY to help you lower your chances of being exposed to this kind of situation 1. Keep Your Personal Information Private Dont post information like your birthdate, your family members names, your high school, or anything like that on Facebook, Twitter, or any other social site. This information is often used for security questions which could help hackers get into your account easier. Use More Than One Email Account Dont use one email account for everything you do. Have different ones for banking, shopping, and so on. Have a different password for each one as well. Use 2 step verification security measures when possible which are fairly easy to setup. Shop Online With Prepaid Cards You can purchase gift cards for PSN or prepaid Visa cards to use when shopping online. If these get hacked, you wont lose any money from your personal accounts or credit cards. Password Protect Your Cell Phone If someone gets your phone, make sure they cant get in by protecting it with a password. Use Special Characters Whenever Possible Whether its a password or the answer to a security question, use special characters like, and so on. These will make it harder for someone to guess your password. Monitor Your EmailsAccounts As I said earlier, your PSN should be linked to an email you check frequently. That way, if something does happen, you can act quickly before too much damage is done.
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